If you Love someone, then would you bother to ask him or her to which caste they belong! If you like someone , would you stop loving him/her, if you come to know they don’t belong to your caste or community?
Being from country like INDIA, there are many things, I feel proud of and some things I just can’t digest it. One of the point is , the way society views LOVE as a crime ! When you love someone and decide to marry him/her , you first have to answer people to which caste he/she belongs? And God forbid, if he/she doesn’t belong to your caste or religion, It’s viewed as a major problem. I know many of my friends who have faced this problem . Few were successful and got married to their love, but a few faced so many issues that in the end they were forced to either break their relation or few were forced to marry someone else. INDIA is developing in so many ways but, when it comes to marriage, our society view it in a different way! I know, parents are concerned about their children, but you need to understand what your child wants. If you find any problem with the guy/girl whom your child loves, talk to them, explain them what points are disturbing you and how you feel about them or their family. If there is any problem, surely they will understand, but don’t force them with your decisions. Love is not a crime, instead its God’s gift. I know it will be a difficult journey for both the families, different castes, new customs& traditions, but, it will bring happy moments too.
My opinion is “If we love someone and have decided that he/she is the one, whom you want to marry, we should convey our message to our parents. We shouldn’t go against them and think of eloping. Our parents were there when we needed them, we have lived with them for so many years and leaving them for our love won’t solve our problems. We shouldn’t set wrong examples in front of others. But instead we should be strong enough and stand for our love and parents both. Marrying someone else would be out of the question as we are in love and it is not a joke. We should be strong enough and face our parents and convince them where our happiness lies..!! I know its easy to say, but practically it doesn’t work. But running from problems is also not a solution. Be strong and face things tactfully and remember one thing, that one person you love is there besides you, fight for them.”
PS: Intercaste marriages are not a crime. Parents please understand your child’s feelings, If you find something wrong in their partner, please make them understand, but hitting them or being violent won’t work. Instead, you are creating distance between you and your child. Discuss it out, your misconceptions could be solved if you are wrong. Your child needs your support and acceptance. They want you in their life so don’t create difficulties for them to either choose between you and their love or force them with your decisions.